12 KEYS TO SUCCESS – Be Responsible (4)

This is a very great key. If you can take all the responsibility, then you won’t blame anyone. You must know that this is your life, and if you want to succeed, you will have to walk this road on your own. Don’t give any excuses and don’t blame anyone if you fail.

Have you ever heard of this word “if”? This is a very lousy excuse often given by many people. Let me gives you some example here. “If I have a car, then I can make more money”, “if only I have more time, then I will invest my money”. Frankly, did you ever hear all these excuses before? Are you using them often?

These words are so easy to use, but don’t use them, they will not bring you what you want. Take all the responsibility, only then you can move to a higher level. Now, you must learn to make good use of this power of responsibility in your life. How? Very simple, take all the responsibility and keep on improving yourself.

Allow me to give you an example here. Like me, I’m a student (the moment I wrote this), and if I failed my exam, I can choose to either blame the lecturer for not teaching me properly and there is nothing I can do. Or I can blame myself and take all the responsibility, so that I can study harder for the next exam. Therefore you see, if you take the responsibility, you will have the power to improve yourself, you have the power to control the situation.

The moment you blame the whole world, you won’t have the power to change. You will lose the chances of improving yourself. If your boss is not giving you a raise in salary, you can blame yourself for not performing well enough. What if after you’ve delivered your hard work, still your boss is not giving you a
raise? You can still take the responsibility that you’re not showing your hard work to your boss.

You know, there is no use if you work so hard and nobody knows about it. You must show your hard work to your boss. Well, you may say you’ve worked hard and you’ve also shown it to your boss, but your boss still is not giving you a raise. Let me tells you what, take the responsibility, and leave. If you’ve created more value and your boss is not appreciating you, then you should leave. This is because the market outside will appreciate your value and pay you more.

So now you know how crucial this key can be. The moment you take all the responsibility, you are taking up the choice to improve. However, there is one more situation can happen when you OVER TAKE the responsibility. That is when you blame yourself too much until you stay in a depress state and not improving yourself. This is a very bad thing that can happen.

I mean you should blame yourself and take the responsibility, but it is not to the extent that you blame yourself until you feel depress and stay in a frustrated state. This will make the situation worse and you are not going to change. Therefore you must always control your emotion, make the positive decision, just like what you’ve learned in KEY #2 – Control Your Emotion.

Know this, “victim blames, victor learns”. You will adopt the mindset of a victim if you keep on giving lousy excuses like you don’t have the luck, you don’t have the time, and you don’t have the knowledge. The problem is, the moment you start giving excuses, you are giving away the power of controlling the situation.

For example, if you tell yourself that you don’t have the luck, you are giving away your power of controlling your life and wealth. Meaning that you don’t have the ability to take charge and change the situation, simply because you think that it is not your fault and not your responsibility. Hence, you will lose the power of controlling your life and your wealth.

The moment you give excuses like the economy has been down for the last 5 years, you are not going to learn from it. If you think it this way, you are not going to change. However, if you take 100 percent responsibility and adopt the victor’s mindset, you will take charge of your life. You will think differently like you if your business fails, you will think of it is because of you are not doing well enough, your sales and closing are not good enough.

Can you see it now? If you take the responsibility, you will have the ability and power to controlling what is happening in your surrounding. But if you give excuses and never take the responsibility, you are not going to change anything.

If you use this power of responsibility wisely, it can become a leveraging tool that will move you to a higher state of success. It will give you a flow of energy and you should put this energy in your life. Remember, it is your fault if you can’t achieve what you want. Just like what I said in the beginning, if people move much faster than you, not because they are faster, but it is because of you are moving slower than them. The moment you see someone is hard working, it is because you are lazy, not because they are hard working. Apply this concept, and take the responsibility.

Once you start to take the responsibility, you can see that your life start to change. You will start to learn and make things come true.